Spread ‘Em: How To Give A Great Rimjob

Spread ‘Em: How To Give A Great Rimjob

A few tips so you can be the best you can be…

Eating ass is no longer taboo. Then again, it never was for queer people. As is often the case, straight people were late to the game and came around to analingus in 2015, when it started to receive mainstream attention in rap music and HBO. Because IN is a queer outlet, we’re not here to tell you what a rim job is, because you already know. What we’re here to do is offer tips to make you the best ass eater you can be.

Welcome to the master class in eating ass.

Build Anticipation
Before tongue touches hole, you should get your “bottom” (a term I’m using for simplicity as I know top/vers individuals like getting their asses eaten, too) loosened up a bit. A pointed tongue in the anus can be startling, so build anticipation first.

“The anus is full of nerve endings and is comprised of both muscles you can control and ones that are part of your autonomous nervous system,” Steve Callow, CEO of sex toy manufacturer Perfect Fit Brands shares. “So, you need to truly relax the lucky receiver, or you risk a reflex that can’t be easily stopped once it is triggered, and your rim job will be over. Sticking your tongue in for a deep dive right off the start is usually a game stopper.”

Greg, 32, starts by complimenting his partner’s butt, whispering things like, “I’ve been checking out your ass a lot and there are a few things I would love to do to it.” He then slowly works his way down, kissing and licking the bottom’s stomach, pelvic region, and inner thighs, then works his way toward the butt. From there, he further builds anticipation by licking and sucking their cheeks – nibbling is another good idea.

Once you’ve got your bottom all hot and bothered, spread their cheeks so the anus is exposed – tell them how delicious it looks. Now it’s time to chow down.

Test Different Techniques
Many like to have the bottom lay flat on their stomach so they can fully relax and enjoy the experience. A pillow placed below the waist can help leverage if required. For a deeper dive, ask the bottom to lift their ass in the air or get on all fours. Just choose what’s most enjoyable for both of you.

The tongue is a tactile organ that can be used in a number of creative ways, each of which your ass will appreciate. You’re best to start with a wide tongue on the surface of the hole. Then, when the bottom gets more comfortable, point the tongue and spread the cheeks wider to get in deeper.

“Lick the hole like it’s a giant ice cream cone, fuck it with your tongue, get all nimble and dextrous and do the alphabet if you really want – although personally I think that’s a little silly, and you’ll be focusing more on getting through the alphabet rather than paying attention to and responding to your bottom,” Benjie, 31, shares.

Of course, everyone is different. So try out a variety of different techniques – from soft kitten licks, to long lapping, with different pressures, speeds and pauses.Listen for cues to find out what they like the best. It’s the bottom’s duty to let you know what feels good.

“Verbal cues are great since you can’t really see their facial reactions,” Stephan, 35, says. “I know I’m doing a good job when I feel a slight twitch and moan going in…and a great job when they relax and let me explore deeper.”

“One of my favourite techniques is the ‘up-and-down’ method, where the tongue travels up and down the anus,” Chris, 35, says. “Another really good one is when you bury your face in their butt as you lick their anus deeply and sloppily. Your partner feeling your entire face in their butt can be very arousing and pleasurable.”

“Mix up the pressure and area don’t focus in one spot to much – I prefer the whole buffet, not just one dish,” porn performer Jon Shield shares, warning that, if you want to incorporate fingers, to ask first. “In my experience, some guys love mouths and tongues on their holes but hate fingers.”

A healthy dose of spit is always good too – if not for the comfort, but the sound. The vibration from light to heavy humming – again, depending on your bottom’s preference – can be a nice touch as well.

To Beard Or Not To Beard?
Incorporating facial hair into your rimming routine offers polarizing results. Tyler, 25, loves the rough sensation. “Even if it’s just a little scruff I think it feels so good,” he says.  “I hate it when someone goes down on me and they just use their tongue. I get so bored.” On the other hand, Jaymi, 25, will flat-out leave if stubble touches his hole. “If you have scruff, don’t eat my ass because it hurts!” he says. A rule of thumb is: the shorter your beard, the more it’ll chafe.

Due to the varied opinions, it’s wise that, before you go rubbing your hairy chin on their hole, to ask first.

Venture Beyond The Hole
Remember the ass is all-encompassing, so don’t focus all your efforts on the hole. Spank your partner and jiggle their cheeks a bit – show appreciation for the delicious peach perched in front of you.

Stephen likes to apply a pressured lick along the taint and kisses and bites the cheeks to switch things up and offer his jaw a much-needed break. Doug, 23, likes to reach around and play with the bottom’s crotch and/or stroke their chest, back and inner thighs. If you’re up for it, press a vibrator against their perineum while you get your fill.

David, 27, has perfected what he calls the “ice cream cone method” where, while rimming, he pulls the dick back through the bottom’s legs and licks it from tip to hole. “Be adventurous – slap the ass, nibble the hole,” he says. “Strict tongue-on-hole gets boring.”

Prepare For A Mess-Free Experience
Since rimming tends to be a surface-level activity, emptying your bowels 30 to 60 minutes prior and giving your bum a scrub and a rinse with gentle soap will suffice. Because eating ass has become so commonplace, products – like Studioready’s Hot Coffee Scrub exfoliate the hole and makes it taste like dessert – can assist with any insecurities as well.

If your planning for a more rigorous rimming session, you’re going to want to douche and we have a guide to do that right here.

Before any rimming session, wash your hands as well as any other part that would be in contact from fecal-oral transmission prior and post engagement. Because rimming can spread run-of-the-mill STIs (chlamydia, gonorrhea, HPV, herpes, syphilis, etc.) and other ailments like Shigella, a post-rim rinse with mouthwash will significantly lower any chance of infection.

And with that, your education in ass eating is complete.

Class dismissed.